So this tip may come as a bit of a shocker – because the message is not from your kids. It’s from your coach! ☺
Sometimes it’s hard to step back, but your child may very well need that space in order to find the path that works for her – and feel like it’s her idea!
Here’s a great story to illustrate the power of stepping back, that JUST came in from one of our clients.
Today was my daughter’s first day of high school. After years of “I won’t use it” arguments about planners and calendars, through coaching I finally learned to stop and let her reap the consequences of failure to plan. I hovered in the background, and she actually learned to say “thanks mom” when I asked her about something she was forgetting. Today, I went down stairs and found a white board calendar posted on the wall next to her bedroom door… all filled in with the school calendar, announcements tacked to the cork board. I also found a table that I’d set up as a launch pad filled with all her stuff for the next day. If you knew how much we argued about using a launch pad during 8th grade! When I backed off, she learned to take over — in her way, in her time. Thanks, Elaine!
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