I never liked the phrase, “if you want it done right, do it yourself!” I’m one of those people who tends to be overly responsible, so it sounds like a burden, like you have to “do it all.” In a world where there is no right or wrong, (see my blog last week) here’s another way to look at it:
If you want something done a certain way, do it yourself!
The truth is that it is unrealistic to think that your 10 year old will fold the clothes the same way (or as neatly) as you. If you ask your 13 year old to sweep up the floor, s/he is likely to miss spots. Your husband probably prepares curried chicken differently than you, too.
There is a trade-off!
Having help with chores and tasks is awesome. It teaches your kids responsibility, and gives you some help with all the things on the family to-do list.
At the same time, if you micro-manage your family members, it can undermine their self-esteem, and set the stage for resentment.
Here’s a way to take care of yourself AND keep healthy relationships: When you delegate something, be willing let go of the “how.” This means overlooking some things when it’s not done your way. And, it means doing it yourself when the details really matter to you. It will help your stress level, your relationships, and your sanity.