Here’s my challenge to you: for one week, try to avoid correcting your child, keep their mistakes to yourself.
I know, hard to imagine, isn’t it?
Here’s the thing – kids with ADHD are constantly being re-directed, by everyone around them. Friends, teachers, parents – half the time we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It becomes natural to make simple corrections.
But what we think of as a simple re-direction – “no, son, try it this way” – becomes larger than life to our kids. They begin to hear every “correction” as a constant barrage of criticism.
“But I need to show her how to behave!” I hear you cry. No, you actually don’t. Not every time. Sometimes, it’s better to say nothing. That’s the thing about ADHD – you know what you’re supposed to do, but you can’t quite get yourself to do it. Having someone rub that in your face every day is no fun. It makes you want to stop trying.
So, will you try it? One week, try not to re-direct, unless it’s critical. And then…just notice what starts to change.