Disagreements are a part of life, and sometimes they get heated. A key to keeping relationships healthy is finding a way to move forward when hurtful things happen. Some people are good at letting go, and others of us end up with ulcers and stress! Where do you fit on the continuum?
A friend of mine had a routine she would use with her son as part of “making up” after they had an argument. They would put their hands together (like playing patty cake) and together move their hands like they were cleaning off a blackboard. Then they would hug and go on with their day. It was their way of starting fresh by wiping the slate clean.
It can help to take the perspective that our friends and family members always have good intentions. Typically, we don’t go out of our way to hurt each other’s feelings. Giving the other person the benefit of the doubt is the first step in moving forward. Recommitting to the relationship and moving forward with forgiveness comes next.
What makes this a self-care tip? Ultimately, forgiveness does more for the forgiver than the offender. So look around. Where could you benefit from starting with a clean slate?