I know you think I’m kidding, but I’m not. Quiet space is not just a luxury, it’s a necessity – even for the most extroverted of parents. Whether it’s in the shower, or on a walk, it’s essential to let your brain have some room to breathe.
Today I was driving – miraculously alone in the car – and I turned off the radio. Silence. It’s amazing how loud it can be, only to be drowned out by the noises in my head. Tempted to turn on the radio several times, I stopped myself. The thoughts of people I wanted to contact came in to my head, and I let them whirl around. I confess to making one call, fortunately only to leave a message. But I returned to the relative quiet of my chatty brain.
Life as a parent is a noisy experience on many levels. One way to quiet the noise is to turn it off, literally. The other is to give yourself space to be, or do, where there is no one to talk with, and nothing structured to think about. I have one friend who gladly does the dishes every night just so she can have some quiet time – for truly, who’s going to bother her and run the risk of being drafted to join her!? It’s a sneaky little trick, but it does the trick. So, what do you think will work for you, hmmm?