The Problem With Perfection
What a funny word, GEMO (/GEE-Moh/). Sounds like a cartoon character. Actually it’s an acronym I’ve learned to embrace over the years: “Good Enough, Move On.” It’s easy to let perfection become a higher priority than getting something completed. The ADHD brain easily allows perfection to move into obsession. When that brain is under stress, the challenge is multiplied. It can be critical to set realistic boundaries for when something is “good enough.”
GEMO In Practice
So what does “good enough” look like? How do you encourage yourself and your kids to do their best, but not to stress themselves out by going overboard?
- Tackle the important stuff first by starting with your top priority.
- Observe – when you notice that you are getting to the point of managing the “finer details,” figure out how much additional time you want to spend. Then set a timer. Check back in if you are tempted to continue and make sure that the additional time is worth the added value.
- Make sure you are clear why you are doing it. If it is a priority for you, then honor yourself by acknowledging that. If you are doing it to please someone else, acknowledge that as well.
- If you are getting tired, ask yourself if it’s time to call GEMO – and do it with pride!