We ALL need to direct and re-direct our kids’ behavior sometimes. The challenge is that when they have ADHD, they are CONSTANTLY being redirected – by you, their teachers, their siblings, their friends. They get a little tired of it, you know?
I know you get tired of it, too, right?!
So here’s a quick 4 step process (and some helpful language) to help you Give Directions and Re-Direct Behaviors so that you GET COOPERATION instead of explosions.
1. Acknowledge your Child’s Experience.
When reminding them: “I know you absolutely meant to reload the dishwasher and that it probably slipped your mind…”
2. Show Compassion (and gratitude when appropriate).
When reminding them: “It’s gotta be really frustrating when you mean to do something and then forget. I know you didn’t forget on purpose.”
3. Get Curious.
When reminding them: “So what do you think you might do differently, next time?”
4. Guide them to Action with Accountability.
When reminding them: “I know you may not know what to do differently— that’s okay, it’s hard. Why don’t we brainstorm together and come up with a few options for you to try?”