For every challenging behavior your children demonstrate, there are underlying positive traits that you can point out and celebrate. When your child learns to see his positive traits, it can help him learn to self-manage when his behavior is challenging.
For example, if your child struggles with emotional intensity and has frequent meltdowns, you might choose to see her as as full of emotion. Chances are, when she feels things that deeply, there are also times when she is loving, compassionate and caring.
A stubborn child is strong-willed and determined, and can persist in the face of great odds. When we see our kids this way, they begin to see their personality traits as both a challenge AND a strength.